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Every therapist was the same. After an hour of baring my soul, they would summarize my feelings without any depth and attempt to offer an immediate solution. Don’t get me wrong. I understand the power of processing my emotions in the moment, yet practitioners often minimized my experiences to one moment alone. I was tired of telling my story of abuse and disruption with little inspiration for a new perspective, ultimately craving a purposeful transformation. Four therapists later, I met someone who nurtured my wholeness in a way that invites the clarity whispered in my prayers. Whenever I found myself saying “I am trying”, my therapist replied— “You are doing the work”. I was learning to make peace with my trauma because entertaining toxic relationships, feeling chronically broken, and struggling with my self-esteem had to be worth something.
Curiosity led me to chat with spiritualists, from an intuitive in New Orleans to a Babalawo in Havana. I soon embraced the path forming before me; one that is adorned with crystals and thrives on healing through Reiki, tarot, oracles, and divine intervention. Something as simple as journaling takes on a new life when we understand the energy that surrounds us and we choose to dive through intentional practice. I am unafraid to profess that my spiritual awakening shifted how I embody wellness. This is a piece about how to vibrate higher, open communication channels, and provide ourselves with information to be different for the sake of the higher self. Here are five spiritual lessons to master for maximum wellness shared through small tales of my personal journey.
1. Synchronicity is an omen.
An omen isn’t inherently good or bad because our response shapes its nature. The catch is acknowledging the opportunity for change before the message intensifies and impacts our ability to adapt. If your spirit guides are anything like mine, gentle nudges turn into Groundhog Day to demand our attention. After spending four years with someone who ignored me at his leisure and reminded me that our relationship was some favor, I found myself believing the ugliness he saw in me. I justified every level of abuse despite quietly wanting better. Future situations were eerily familiar. I continued dating men who had nothing to offer for nearly 10 years because I thought there was little I could reciprocate. My self-esteem clearly required nurturing so I could determine my own value. These days, I recognize my participation in the chaos and am grateful for the omen that brought forth my truest self. I choose to protect my peace as adamantly as my spirit guides directed me. I cannot unsee these changes now that my awareness is heightened and the synchronicity of my experiences remind me that I am on the right path. Anyone fortunate enough to enter my space must be in alignment.
2.Manifestation requires honesty.
Excel spreadsheets, office politics, and slacks. These are a few of my least favorite things. Yet I found myself enamored as if they were symbols of a fruitful career. After earning a Master of Communication degree in Australia, I returned home in search of a corporate job. That’s what this expensive piece of paper was for, right? I worked with two multinational media companies before joining an equally known social media agency. I felt secure and excited to work with high-profile clients. That is until I felt unfulfilled one year later. The amount of social media likes and comments that translated to potential revenue no longer motivated me. Sitting in an office all day felt stifling. I needed more purpose (and flexibility) in my professional life. The decision to transition into the nonprofit industry wasn’t easy, but necessary for my happiness. What followed was two AmeriCorps terms serving the local community to advance environmental stewardship and educational programming. These opportunities even included field components that freed me from my desk! There was something undeniably set in motion. Currently, I work remotely with an organization that literally saves lives daily. The moment I chose to be honest with my desires, the universe made space for me to take meaningful action. I attracted everything I asked for because I was truthful and didn’t waiver in what was meant for me.
3.Discipline is a major key.
My obsession with journals started in middle school when I’d beg mum for the next one before scribbling on every page. I didn’t know then that my experiences as an adult would leave me feeling incomplete like those notebooks. In 2017, a spiritualist advised me to find a therapist for long-term support; this is when discipline took the place of avoidance and I was set on a path to wholeness. Shoutout to the Therapy for Black Girls directory, where I found my incredible therapist. The version of myself that showed up to the first session was filled with confusion, loneliness, sorrow, and found solace in victimization. My therapist and I met weekly unpacking traumas and triggers through powerful assignments. I’d meditate before journaling on questions like “Who taught me what about love?” Epiphanies surfaced and led me to identify the root of toxic patterns, appropriately name my emotions, establish boundaries, determine how (and where) I assign value and better understand Who I Want To Be. The greatest lesson thus far has been the integrity of choice. Today, I write this story feeling confident, grounded, joyful, and accountable for my actions. Our sessions have since moved to a monthly schedule because my discipline in doing the work unlocked constant growth.
4. Vibration grows with trust.
If someone told me I would become an entrepreneur, I’d question their thought process. Perhaps this was just a product of my own low-level thoughts. Now I understand that my spirit guides had greater plans than I could immediately envision. During my first Reiki session, the healer did a one-card tarot reading. The Child of Wands. The message was to address my creative restlessness and be confident that I have the prowess to bring my ideas to life. My ancestors also delivered a personal message to the healer, advising she share the I Ching oracle with me. I sat with all this new information and energy, divining with the oracle before brainstorming ideas I had neglected for years. Within two hours, I developed a business plan for what soon became a registered LLC. Whenever I am doubtful of my capabilities or unclear on the next steps, I consult the divine through these tools. I always receive what I need, affirmed by blessings and the angel number 444 which symbolizes spiritual guidance. My thoughts continue to vibrate at a higher level in direct correlation to my growing trust in the universe. Another way of thinking about this is I trust my highest self is unconditionally supported by my spirit guides and our open communication.
5. Everything happens in divine order.
Divine order is similar to the divine calendar as nothing happens before its time. The universal flow is always at work for our greatest good and brings as much grace as we allow. This concept helped me make sense of the most jarring experiences. In 2013, I was misdiagnosed with Bipolar I Disorder. The psychiatrist suggested I was a textbook case so I set off to take medication, join support groups, and own this identity fully. Other times, I was deeply disappointed by the healthcare system. Two clinicians later confirmed I was just a young woman who didn’t know how to deal with all the trauma endured. Although those five years forced me to own a false narrative, I was also pushed to pay attention to my emotions while becoming aware of how I relate to others. Since then, I sought a career that integrates empathy, learned to ask people how they are feeling, recognized pain where signs are otherwise missed and became dedicated to promoting personal healing. Without my own rich experiences with mental health, I wouldn’t be able to acknowledge the various spaces that emotional wellbeing exists. I wouldn’t have discovered the power of spirituality and connection. I wouldn’t have become a healer.
These spiritual lessons strengthened my commitment to self. I eventually honored myself as the source of change and divine communication. From romance to business endeavors, this dynamic improved many parts of my life by highlighting the synergy between spirituality and wellness. And as a result, I discovered different parts of myself and learned how to nourish each one uniquely. I’m now able to mindfully assess my needs, paying close attention to all the information available. I’m not my past experiences, but I damn sure learned from them. I celebrate the woman I’ve become daily and proudly make decisions that answer the calls of the universe. Finally, I get to live my best life.
Nya Wilson: Wellness Advocate + Reiki Practitioner. Founder of Dialogue Nyne, dedicated to cultivating emotional wealth and energy renewal within black communities. IG @dialogue.nyne