Meet Karmay, the woman behind healing circles for women of color: As I walked into Heal Haus, there was Karmay, greeting me with an inviting smile and warm hug. I instantly felt the spirit of a young woman who was filled with compassion, love, confidence, and poise. Karmay is the founder of Gloetry Assembly, where she provides safe, non-judgmental spaces for women and girls to experience deeper connections with themselves and create sisterhood through women circles. Talking about boys, work, clothes, your most recent vacation or turn up is cool, but having conversations that are “substantial and soul filling” was something that Karmay says was missing. With a force of courage, Karmay decided to invite a group of friends, who had never really met each other, to come together under one roof and simply share. Little did she know, she would be starting a movement that wouldn't only affect her inner circle but would impact many other lives. Black + Well exist because of individuals like Karmay, here is her story.
What made you start Gloetry?
It wasn’t for the sake of like “Oh I need to create a space for women” ...it was more-so like trying to fill a void that was missing in my life. It was at a point in my life where I really needed community, and I really needed connection and space for self-discovery and retrospection. I didn’t feel like there was anywhere I could go where I could get that. In my mid-20s, hanging out in the bar scene and conventional spaces that young people went weren’t really speaking to me at that point in my life. I wanted a space where people were genuinely interested in meaningful conversations deeper than the surface level.
What triggered that need for something much deeper and meaningful?
After working at Yelp for 4 ½ years as a sales manager, I felt a deep desire for self-discovery and reflection. After you get settled in a career you're more than likely to get stuck in that profession. And I was like… I’m not sure if I want to do this forever. So when I left I was like well what else am I gonna’ do? where else am I going to contribute? where do I belong? When I left I was like okay... I belong to nothing, I belong to no one, I belong to nowhere. I was going through a bit of an identity crisis, although a very privileged one (she . smiles and chuckles). I traveled a lot and was able to find myself. Then I had a moment where I specifically asked God “What is my purpose?”. He then revealed Gloetry to me in three separate situations, amongst three different friends and it was like BOOM! I need to bring my friends together and just see what happens.
What makes Gloetry stand out from other women circles?
I intentionally wanted people to have space where we don't simply share relationship stories, stories about your worst tinder date, but to actually dive deep and walk away with at least one epiphany. We have to show the ugly, messy, vulnerable parts of ourselves in order to get to that space of like… Wow, I REALLY see you, I REALLY hear you, and allow that raw nakedness and exposing of self to take us to the next level of awakening. The whole meaning behind Gloetry is to raise collective awareness and collective consciousness.
Were you someone who naturally always spoke up and stepped into your truth?
No, not at all. I was actually someone who didn’t speak up. I was very much afraid of using my voice. I had learned at a young age to not do that. I came from two amazing parents who struggled with emotionally sharing, so my emotions and feelings were very stunted from being shared. I grew up being a child who just listened, obeyed and did what I was told. I saw how that dynamic showed up in my career and how I related to authority. However, my mom was someone who spoke up for herself and advocated for herself whenever it was time, so it’s a very interesting contradiction in that way. I did realize I struggled with speaking my truth in the face of authority, whether that was jobs, bosses, boyfriends, anyone who had some sort of “power” over me, that was my narrative. Gloetry has put me on a path of totally pushing out everything of who I was.