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5 Spiritual Lessons to Live Your Best Life!

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Every therapist was the same. After an hour of baring my soul, they would summarize my feelings without any depth and attempt to offer an immediate solution. Don’t get me wrong. I understand the power of processing my emotions in the moment, yet practitioners often minimized my experiences to one moment alone. I was tired of telling my story of abuse and disruption with little inspiration for a new perspective, ultimately craving a purposeful transformation. Four therapists later, I met someone who nurtured my wholeness in a way that invites the clarity whispered in my prayers. Whenever I found myself saying “I am trying”, my therapist replied— “You are doing the work”. I was learning to make peace with my trauma because entertaining toxic relationships, feeling chronically broken, and struggling with my self-esteem had to be worth something.

Curiosity led me to chat with spiritualists, from an intuitive in New Orleans to a Babalawo in Havana. I soon embraced the path forming before me; one that is adorned with crystals and thrives on healing through Reiki, tarot, oracles, and divine intervention. Something as simple as journaling takes on a new life when we understand the energy that surrounds us and we choose to dive through intentional practice. I am unafraid to profess that my spiritual awakening shifted how I embody wellness. This is a piece about how to vibrate higher, open communication channels, and provide ourselves with information to be different for the sake of the higher self. Here are five spiritual lessons to master for maximum wellness shared through small tales of my personal journey.

1. Synchronicity is an omen.

An omen isn’t inherently good or bad because our response shapes its nature. The catch is acknowledging the opportunity for change before the message intensifies and impacts our ability to adapt. If your spirit guides are anything like mine, gentle nudges turn into Groundhog Day to demand our attention. After spending four years with someone who ignored me at his leisure and reminded me that our relationship was some favor, I found myself believing the ugliness he saw in me. I justified every level of abuse despite quietly wanting better. Future situations were eerily familiar. I continued dating men who had nothing to offer for nearly 10 years because I thought there was little I could reciprocate. My self-esteem clearly required nurturing so I could determine my own value. These days, I recognize my participation in the chaos and am grateful for the omen that brought forth my truest self. I choose to protect my peace as adamantly as my spirit guides directed me. I cannot unsee these changes now that my awareness is heightened and the synchronicity of my experiences remind me that I am on the right path. Anyone fortunate enough to enter my space must be in alignment.

2.Manifestation requires honesty.

Excel spreadsheets, office politics, and slacks. These are a few of my least favorite things. Yet I found myself enamored as if they were symbols of a fruitful career. After earning a Master of Communication degree in Australia, I returned home in search of a corporate job. That’s what this expensive piece of paper was for, right? I worked with two multinational media companies before joining an equally known social media agency. I felt secure and excited to work with high-profile clients. That is until I felt unfulfilled one year later. The amount of social media likes and comments that translated to potential revenue no longer motivated me. Sitting in an office all day felt stifling. I needed more purpose (and flexibility) in my professional life. The decision to transition into the nonprofit industry wasn’t easy, but necessary for my happiness. What followed was two AmeriCorps terms serving the local community to advance environmental stewardship and educational programming. These opportunities even included field components that freed me from my desk! There was something undeniably set in motion. Currently, I work remotely with an organization that literally saves lives daily. The moment I chose to be honest with my desires, the universe made space for me to take meaningful action. I attracted everything I asked for because I was truthful and didn’t waiver in what was meant for me.

3.Discipline is a major key.

My obsession with journals started in middle school when I’d beg mum for the next one before scribbling on every page. I didn’t know then that my experiences as an adult would leave me feeling incomplete like those notebooks. In 2017, a spiritualist advised me to find a therapist for long-term support; this is when discipline took the place of avoidance and I was set on a path to wholeness. Shoutout to the Therapy for Black Girls directory, where I found my incredible therapist. The version of myself that showed up to the first session was filled with confusion, loneliness, sorrow, and found solace in victimization. My therapist and I met weekly unpacking traumas and triggers through powerful assignments. I’d meditate before journaling on questions like “Who taught me what about love?” Epiphanies surfaced and led me to identify the root of toxic patterns, appropriately name my emotions, establish boundaries, determine how (and where) I assign value and better understand Who I Want To Be. The greatest lesson thus far has been the integrity of choice. Today, I write this story feeling confident, grounded, joyful, and accountable for my actions. Our sessions have since moved to a monthly schedule because my discipline in doing the work unlocked constant growth.

4. Vibration grows with trust.

If someone told me I would become an entrepreneur, I’d question their thought process. Perhaps this was just a product of my own low-level thoughts. Now I understand that my spirit guides had greater plans than I could immediately envision. During my first Reiki session, the healer did a one-card tarot reading. The Child of Wands. The message was to address my creative restlessness and be confident that I have the prowess to bring my ideas to life. My ancestors also delivered a personal message to the healer, advising she share the I Ching oracle with me. I sat with all this new information and energy, divining with the oracle before brainstorming ideas I had neglected for years. Within two hours, I developed a business plan for what soon became a registered LLC. Whenever I am doubtful of my capabilities or unclear on the next steps, I consult the divine through these tools. I always receive what I need, affirmed by blessings and the angel number 444 which symbolizes spiritual guidance. My thoughts continue to vibrate at a higher level in direct correlation to my growing trust in the universe. Another way of thinking about this is I trust my highest self is unconditionally supported by my spirit guides and our open communication.

5. Everything happens in divine order.

Divine order is similar to the divine calendar as nothing happens before its time. The universal flow is always at work for our greatest good and brings as much grace as we allow. This concept helped me make sense of the most jarring experiences. In 2013, I was misdiagnosed with Bipolar I Disorder. The psychiatrist suggested I was a textbook case so I set off to take medication, join support groups, and own this identity fully. Other times, I was deeply disappointed by the healthcare system. Two clinicians later confirmed I was just a young woman who didn’t know how to deal with all the trauma endured. Although those five years forced me to own a false narrative, I was also pushed to pay attention to my emotions while becoming aware of how I relate to others. Since then, I sought a career that integrates empathy, learned to ask people how they are feeling, recognized pain where signs are otherwise missed and became dedicated to promoting personal healing. Without my own rich experiences with mental health, I wouldn’t be able to acknowledge the various spaces that emotional wellbeing exists. I wouldn’t have discovered the power of spirituality and connection. I wouldn’t have become a healer.

These spiritual lessons strengthened my commitment to self. I eventually honored myself as the source of change and divine communication. From romance to business endeavors, this dynamic improved many parts of my life by highlighting the synergy between spirituality and wellness. And as a result, I discovered different parts of myself and learned how to nourish each one uniquely. I’m now able to mindfully assess my needs, paying close attention to all the information available. I’m not my past experiences, but I damn sure learned from them. I celebrate the woman I’ve become daily and proudly make decisions that answer the calls of the universe. Finally, I get to live my best life.


CONTRIBUTOR BIO

Nya Wilson: Wellness Advocate + Reiki Practitioner. Founder of Dialogue Nyne, dedicated to cultivating emotional wealth and energy renewal within black communities. IG @dialogue.nyne

Anasa Troutman on Joy, Radical Love, + Forgiveness

Photo Source:  Anasa Toutman

Photo Source: Anasa Toutman

Writer, producer, and entrepreneur, Anasa Troutman has dedicated her work to the importance of culture and the power of love. As CEO of her company, Culture Shift Creative, Anasa works to build and execute strategies for artists and organizations that are aligned with her vision of a loving world and her belief in creativity as a pathway to personal, community and global transformation.

In her recent TED TALK, Troutman discusses going from justice to joy. She goes on to say “What if we teach everybody that all of us of deserve joy, wellness, the benefit of the doubt even… what would that be like? A culture of joy offers sustained well-being for everyone”.

Watch as she shares her full story below!

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Black Women In Wellness: 21 Influencers + Advocates You Should Know + Follow

As a way to celebrate International Women’s Day we put together a list of black women authentically and unapologetically advocating for wellness within their communities.

These women represent what is means to be Black + Well


Chelsea.

@TheCoffeyBreak: Every week the Black + Well community is blessed with affirmations by the one and only ‘Affirmation Queen’ Chelsea Coffey. Admitting to not “having it all” Chelsea uses affirmations and her spiritual awareness as a way of manifesting a purposeful and fulfilling life. TheCoffeyBreak.com

DeJanae.

@dejanetanye: Wellness writer, certified cannabis educator and founder of @greengodessglow. DeJanae uses her platform to encourage mindful cannabis + self-care practices. GreenGoddesGlow.com

Chelsea.

@thatschelsea: Chelsea began her platform in an effort to help teach others how they can live a healthier lifestyle, as well as become more knowledgeable, and health-conscious consumers. Her content ranges from quick health tips to eco and green beauty reviews, to plant-based recipes. ThatsChelsea.com.

Yasmine.

@meanttobeyasmine: NJ based writer, body positivity advocate, and content creator. With a simple mission to “honor myself enough to become who I’m meant to be”, Yasmine encourages others to be fearless and do the same with @transparentblackgirl; a community organization founded to encourage, highlight, and nurture unapologetic women of color. Meanttobeyasmine.com

Shanna.

@shannatyler_:Life + Biz Coach and Podcaster. After being diagnosed with major depressive disorder and hospitalized in an inpatient facility, Shanna decided to move toward the light, and share her story to empower others to do the same with her podcast Self Soul Sport. Catch her sharing all things wellness over at ShannaTyler.com


Leah.

@GreenGirlLeah: A sustainability + wellness writer and advocate, whose overall goal is to help people live with both self-care and the environment in mind. Leah is passionate about environmental justice and equal access to nature, which she personally calls 'Green Inclusivity'. GreenGirlLeah.com

Kharissa.

@Kforteco: Writer, health coach, and light force. Kharissa continues to advocate for wellness in multiple ways, spiritually being one. With her book Pardon My ApathyKharissa aims to help women create authentic lives by reaching the root of their core desires and seeking fulfillment over validation.

Aala.

@aalaoffical: After curing herself of an autoimmune disease, Aala has been encouraging others to take their health into their own hands with her cookbook cleanse. You can catch her spreading health and wellness at aalacleanse.com


Somi.

@somiigbene: Advocating for health and wellness through a plant-based diet, Somi shares drool-worthy recipes over at VeganBySomi.com

Danielle.

@zelue: A Brooklynite, Nurse Practitioner, and creative. Danielle dedicated her blog to plant care/styling, self-care, vegan and sustainable living, home decor, and the pursuit of cultivating a joy-filled life. Her goal is to be her most authentic self and inspire others to do the same. Zelue.me


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Larriell.

@herthrivinglife: Larriell believes that health is a priority and should be considered mentally, physically and spiritually. Her Thriving Life exists to inspire others to live a life of wellness to produce growth, peace, and happiness. HerThrivingLife.com


Melissa.

@metricdisco: Melissa shares her personal wellness journey unapologetically. Along the way she’s learned to give herself “permission to enter spaces of predominately thin, white people and tell myself “yes, this is for me” even when I felt like the people around me were implicitly telling me no”. Follow along as she cultivates an active practice of self-care and joy at MetricDisco.com

Jasmin.

@mashandspread: Registered Dietician by day. Blogger by night. Jasmin shares creative ways to indulge in healthier food choices at MashAndSpread.com

Amanda.

@elevatedbygrace: Vegan Health Influencer. Amanda’s goal is to lead a life of health consciousness and inspire other to do the same. Check out her YouTube Channel where she shares recipes and mini docs. ElevatedByGrace

Les.

@balancedles: Les is the fitness-loving founder of Balanced Black Girl, a podcast and supportive wellness community for women of color. She creates space for women to have candid conversations about wellness, self-care, and self-love, with a dose of humor. BalancedBlackGirl.com

Nzingah.

@yesbabyilikeitraw: With a holistic approach to wellness, Nzingah shares food, fitness, mental health, and self-care tips along with natural remedies to empower others to live more wholesomely. YesBabyILikeItRaw.com

Brielle.

@wellwithbrielle: Black + Well contributor Brielle shares her own personal wellness journey and tips around a lifestyle of wellness on her blog. WellWithBrielle.com

Maiah.

@maiahthemermaid: Wellness coach and fitness instructor, Maiah advocates for others to get fit and offers wellness programs over at MaiahTheMermaid.com

Denise.

@brooklynbabe NYC Mama, Doula, Wellness & Self Care Advocate, and Content Creator. Denise loves building community, supporting moms, women, and humans while remaining in a constant state of growth and connection with the universe. ABrooklynBabe.com


Valerie.

@floursihheights: Dietician Valerie advocates for women’s nutrition & wellness and helping others plant their health on higher ground. FlourishHeight.com

Tiffany.

@TiffanyIma: Teaches creative women how to use exercise and self-care to manage depression + improve their overall wellness. She believes we all can build our own happiness through a simple and holistic approach to wellness. TiffanyIma.com


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